You don’t need a new life.
Fall in love with this one again.
Clear vision.
Radical acceptance.
Aligned action.
Relationship Coaching
Whether you’re happily single, seeking a partner, in a committed relationship, or looking to improve your relationship with your family / co-workers / friends, we will build a structure and role-play scenarios with you so you can communicate more clearly, define and hold your boundaries, and relate openly and honestly. By addressing the most important relationship (with yourself) you can improve ALL of your relationships more easefully.
Life Path Coaching
For most people, work takes up about half of your life. By clarifying what drives you to do the work you do, we can find ways to make that half of your life more impactful and more enjoyable. No more “working for the weekend.” Together we’ll envision the perfect day and then create habits to get you there in a matter of months, not “once you retire.” Planning doesn’t have to suck, and goals don’t have to be decades or even years away.
Transition Coaching
New hobby, moving cities, buying a house, having kids, coming out to your family... Big changes can be disorienting, but they don’t have to be. Imagine if instead of seeing what happens and rolling with the punches, you set up a roadmap and follow it GPS style. Sounds great, right? It’s not only possible, it’s actually way easier in the long run. It takes more upfront work, and those structures are where we come in. Go right at the next road.
Underline Method?
We’re Franki and Greeshma. Founders of the Underline Method.
Life may be complex, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Let us help you underline what’s most important to you. To view the underlying causes of mental blocks, and to form new structures and systems to bring clarity to your highest vision. To find the method to access your true self.
We believe our approach to coaching is at least twice as effective as all others because we take a 2-on-1 approach by coaching our clients together. We use our different vantage points to triangulate solutions with our clients. Male. Female. Eastern. Western. Sane. Slightly less sane... (you decide who’s who)
You can expect a series of guided conversations and exercises where we figure out specific goals, identify blocks you may have to achieving them, make space for and accept the source of those issues, create a new pathway from that place, and implement purposeful action to create lasting change. We believe in science, systems, accountability, and a dash of magic.
Change is the goal, but first you need clarity. The Underline Method helps you identify what actually matters, clearly define your goals, and live the truth you’ve been circling.
When you see yourself clearly and understand your story, it becomes possible to accept and integrate the parts that have blocked you from moving forward all these years. From that grounded place you can be on a path of aligned and efficient action, freeing yourself to step fully into your power.
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Jaleh has been working at HP for 13 years. She has a great salary, but doesn’t love the work itself. She keeps finding herself pulled to work past the hours she’s getting paid for, and because of that, she’s spending less time with her loved ones, less time playing the violin, and is just generally having a difficult time feeling like she’s “on the right path.” We decide to work together and she joins us for a 3 month journey.
In the first session we dive into her major goals. At first she says “I don’t really know what’s going on. I just feel ‘off’ and I want to get back to being my fun self again.” We do some light bodywork exercises together to ground down and stop the racing thoughts. Then we go through a writing exercise we’ve designed to help her dream up an ideal day. Looking over it she concludes: “I want to find play again. I want to get better at turning off ‘work mode’ when office hours are over. I want to spend more quality time with my girlfriend.”
We help Jaleh find space to feel what might actually be at the root of this issue by guiding her through where she feels these pings in her body. “Shoulders and neck are really tight. I feel like I’m always bracing.” From there, we challenge her to find the first time she remembers feeling that. When she was a little girl she felt really pressured to perform well at an orchestra recital. Her dad made a big deal out of coming back early from a business trip and jokingly told her she’d better not mess up. When she puts the violin back up on her shoulder to play, it feels impossibly heavy and like she’s about to cramp up. Jaleh hadn’t thought of this in years, but she’s never actually accepted what she felt. She surprises herself by crying lightly and we watch her shoulders relax back and down a bit.
Together we talk through accepting the hurt that caused her to take on this tension. Making room for the feeling of a small body having to carry too big of a weight. Of how it hurts to have something she really loved for fun (violin) become a potential point of separation between her and her caretakers. We encourage big Jaleh to give little Jaleh space to feel what she’s feeling. To SEE clearly.
Then we sit with this and let ourselves BE in this energy until the body regulates. We help Jaleh be with that little version of herself without trying to change or fix anything. Once this energy has fully expressed itself and moved through her, we come back into the present moment and take a few breaths.
From this place, we can now begin to look at the goals. “Find play, stop workaholism, spend more quality time with your girlfriend.” Together we figure out what playing looks like. What it would feel like if she didn’t take the weight of the world onto her shoulders (as is her pattern) with work. What “quality time” actually means.
Jaleh ends up landing on the simple idea of setting up timers. She downloads a “Punch Clock” app on her phone and agrees to try for a week punching in and out of work. Just to measure the ACTUAL hours she’s working. At the next session we find out she’s working 65 hours for her 40-hour work week. Woof.
After briefly exploring why that may be the case, and anchoring back into that moment of feeling like she needed to prove herself to her family and letting go of that feeling, we plan out a work journal. “Every time you work, write down your work goal in the journal then punch in. When you’re done working, punch out and then write down what you ACTUALLY accomplished.”
The next week Jaleh comes in and tells us “I was able to cut down to 45 hours, and get more done JUST because I was actually recording it and went in KNOWING what I needed to do, then stopping once it was done. It was crazy. I suddenly had 20 more hours… that’s almost an entire day. I spent a newly freed up evening with my girlfriend showing her my past recital videos. I realized she’d never even heard me play violin before. I ended up getting the violin out without even planning to and playing a piece that I’d written when I was 15. It was so nice to connect in that way.”
This kind of seemingly rapid-fire transformation that comes from truly accepting the reality, then envisioning and enacting specific changes to patterns in order to shape a new reality is INCREDIBLY common. The things that feel impossible are often a relatively minor decision (with major impact) away.
Any of this sound like you?
You subconsciously self-sabotage RIGHT before something good finally happens.
Nothing is wrong with you, but something feels “off.”
You’re about to sit down and play your guitar, then you remember you’ve got to tackle that work project instead. Again.
You really love your job, and you tell people all the time, so you keep the fact that you’re burning out a secret.
You know what you want to change, but can’t quite figure out how.
You and your partner have put that trip off yet again.
You had the “quality time” talk five times this week and it’s still not landing right.
You miss feeling like life is playful, and you’re not sure when it stopped feeling that way.
You keep updating your boundaries, and your friends, partners, co-workers, keep updating new ways to cross them.
"Talking to two people instead of just one is a game changer. Somewhere between their perspectives (and my own) is The Truth! They helped me find the clarity of mind to make better decisions, to alchemize frustration into productive, actionable steps, and to be honest with myself. I feel like they truly understand me as an individual. They are deeply creative and speak in a language that resonates with creatives!”
- Jess
“A very beautiful support system that helps me understand my own priorities… what’s in front of me that is important to me. I recommend them to anyone who has dreams and has the desire to expand. Having trusted people that you can sound things off of that also keep you motivated and accountable is very cool.”
- Cassidy R.
"Working with Franki and Greeshma has expanded my horizons of what I thought would be possible in my life. They have helped me find a new standard for myself and my business and have worked with me to set attainable goals and find a reasonable plan to achieve those goals. I have never worked with coaches in this way before. I feel like part of a team that is working together to overcome the challenges that I face in my personal and professional life.”
- Sam S.